Chapter 5 - Unmet Needs, Unhealed Hurts, Unresolved Issues

Much childhood trauma is sustained from factual events that did happen and cannot be changed. I wish we could loose the facts of neglect, abuse, and lack of love from lives-our own as well as others. But when neglect, abuse, and a lack of love really existed, these are facts. Facts cannot be loosed. Because of these errors and omissions in your early life, three things happened: unhealed hurts, unresolved issues, and unmet needs were birthed. These areas of vulnerability produce the pain, fear, and doubt that keep you from fully surrendering to an intimate relationship with God. They are the source of the fear and pain that your soul unleashes whenever you move too close to God-the neediness, hopelessness, insecurity, anger, confusion, and wrong desires that keept bringing defeat into your life.

Have you ever wondered how a powerful message from the Word of God on Sunday sometimes barely lasts through Monday night? Or how a special gift, a new car, or a new friend causes you to think "this" will surely change your life-but by morning your joy is already leaking away? I knew one Christian who repeatedly seemed to get lower than low. Many Christians gave him scriptural promises, encouragement, and loving acceptance, praying with him until he was uplifted. Within two days, he would be lower than low again. Several of us went through this pattern with him over and over until finally I said in exasperation, "Mark, you leak!" Thinking I was just frustrated, I had no idea this was a prophetic truth.

The unhealed hurts, unresolved issues, and unmet needs in your unsurrendered soul are like bottomless holes. Regardless of how much good preaching, singing, praise and worship, prayer, love, and attention comes into your life and uplifts you, they immediately begin to leak back out of the holes in your soul. No amount of money, alcohol, drugs, sex, material things, relationships, or food can ever fill up those gaping holes! Only God can, but don't get upset at Him for not not yet doing so. Right above the soul's three "holey" sources of need, pain, and confusion-the unmet needs, unhealed hurts, and unresolved issues-lies the soul's bottom-line defense against being dethroned. God will not violate that self-erected defense system. I believe there are two ways this power structure can be deconstructed, one bad and one good.

The bad way is when the soul becomes overwhelmed by the sustained intensity of the drives pushing up out of the three sources. The mind, will, and emotions simply can't take the overload anymore of being driven to fix that which is unfixable. Having no backup support system, the soul simply begins to come apart under the pressure. The corrosive acidity of the unhealed hurts, unresolved issues, and unmet needs have eaten away too much of the infrastructure and the holes have become too big. I picture them becoming like whirlpools, slowly sucking everything down into darkness. When the soul collapses in upon itself, minds snap, emotions break, and the will to live is gone.

The good way the power structure of the unsurrendered soul can deconstructed is through a cooperative work between the believer and God. The believer looses the layers, walls, strongholds, and all "high things" that have stood between himself and God. Into this now unblocked soul, God pours grace, mercy, and healing. The soul, with its walls and strongholds down, receives and is made whole. Understanding this cooperative work is the purpose of this book.

Continue to pray the Prayers of Commitment from Germaine's Prayers That Avail Much Commemorative Edition and ask to receive Jesus as Savior and Lord! You may also use the online Prayer Search to find additional prayers to address your specific concern.